Navigating Identity Shifts: Who Am I Now That I’m a Mom?

Motherhood changes everything. But it doesn’t erase you.

Becoming a mom brings transformation. Physically, emotionally, spiritually. There’s beauty in it, and sometimes grief too. The version of yourself you once knew feels distant. The one you’re becoming feels new, unfamiliar, and maybe even uncomfortable.

You are not lost. You are evolving.

This is a space to gently explore the question so many women quietly carry: Who am I now that I’m a mom?

Let Yourself Grieve the Old You

It’s okay to miss who you were before motherhood. The freedom. The spontaneity. The quiet. It doesn’t mean you love your child any less. It means you’re human.

Grieving parts of your past self is a natural part of growing into your next one. You don’t have to bounce back. You get to begin again.

Make space for your feelings without judgment. The softness starts there.

Get Dressed for the You Who Exists Now

Your body may feel different. Your time, your energy, your needs—all reshaped. Start by honoring that with what you wear.

Choose clothes that feel like ease. That move with your new rhythms. That support the version of you who is holding so much. Getting dressed might feel like a small thing, but it’s a powerful way to say, I still see me.

You don’t have to go back to your old style. You get to create a new one. And, 13 Fridays is here to help. 

Name What Still Feels Like You

Maybe it’s the way you make your coffee. The playlist you put on while folding laundry. The scent of your favorite candle. Or the way you always reach for gold jewelry, even on tired days.

These small threads of familiarity matter. They anchor you when everything else feels new. When you name what still feels like you, you create space to build from that place.

Let Your Identity Expand, Not Shrink

You are still you, now with more depth, more compassion, more strength than ever before. Being a mom isn’t the end of your identity. It’s an expansion of it.

You can be nurturing and ambitious. Soft and powerful. Still and driven. You are allowed to be many things at once. And you are allowed to change.

Let your style, your choices, and your story evolve with you.

You Are Becoming, Not Disappearing

It’s easy to feel invisible in the early seasons of motherhood. The needs, the noise, the never-ending tasks. But even in the blur, you are still here. You are becoming someone entirely new...layered, wise, whole.

Give yourself the same patience and grace you offer everyone else.

Motherhood may have shifted your identity, but it didn’t erase it. It just brought you back to your becoming.

Explore styles made for your now, not your before.